I cannot let this month pass without sharing a bit of my experience. Our autism journey started long ago—before we even knew what to call it. Among our four children, we’ve navigated various combinations of neurodiversity, including Level 1 Autism, giftedness, and ADHD. My experience as a twice-exceptional (2E) mom has been both a happy challenge and a deep blessing.
Early Signs of Neurodiversity in Our Family
When my girls were little, I noticed specific ways they were different from their peers. Both were hyperlexic—learning to read very early and at advanced levels. They developed rich vocabularies and had incredibly focused, passionate interests. One struggled with extreme separation anxiety. The other had no sense of fear or self-preservation—I was just trying to help her survive toddlerhood!
As they grew, new challenges emerged. We navigated sensory sensitivities and deep, paralyzing social anxiety. As a mom, it was heartbreaking to witness the hard parts of their neurodiversity.
Learning, Growing, and Finding Our Way
With time—and a great deal of research—I began to understand my children better. Eventually, we found the right support and diagnoses followed. These days, my greatest work is walking alongside them. And truly, it’s my greatest joy.
Autism is often framed around its challenges. Today, I want to share three of my favorite parts of being a mom to autistic children.
1. Discovering Their Talents and Identities
I love seeing my kids discover what they’re good at and what brings them joy. For kids who don’t easily fit into social norms, it can feel like being a square peg in a round hole. That loneliness can chip away at their self-worth. Watching them uncover their passions and grow in confidence has been such a gift. When they light up with purpose, it lights up my heart too.
2. Joining Them in Their Deep-Dive Interests
Thanks to my children, I’ve learned all about Greek mythology, cat breeds, ASL, marine biology, martial arts, and so much more. Their curiosity is contagious. I love sharing in their excitement and being invited into their world of wonder.
3. Learning to Advocate—for Them and With Them
This has been one of the harder lessons. It’s not always clear when to step in, when to hold back, or when to help them find their own voice. Social misunderstandings are common—both with peers and adults. Teaching them how to advocate for themselves, while also learning how to do that on their behalf, is a work in progress. But it’s also a powerful part of our journey.
What They’ve Taught Me
My kids have taught me patience, empathy, and the power of seeing behavior as a signal—not defiance. I’ve learned to look for lagging skills instead of labeling behavior. And through this, we’ve built a deep trust that we’re in this together.
I wouldn’t trade this journey for anything.
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